When I Miss You {Dedicated to Xander}

Xander

What do I do when I miss you? Why, that's a silly question. I eat and I sleep and I go out and I stay up late and I watch the stars and I do my homework and I procrastinate and I write and I make things and I speak and I stay quiet and I draw and I make mistakes and I do good things and I do awful things and I take naps and I stay in and I laugh and I smile and I cry and I hurt and I am completely, utterly, one-hundred-percent me. I've missed you so greatly and for so long that it's part of my identity. There isn't a moment that I don't long for you. Every day of my life is me needing your presence, lightly covered with all of these bits and pieces.
I do everything when I miss you.

                                                                                                           - Author Unknown

When I found this quote online, I knew I had to dedicate it to Xander.

This precious little boy was in our lives for just over a year

and then the court system returned him to his biological mother.

The year we had Xander 

and the years following his departure have made me who I am:

a childless mother.

Before Xander, I didn't know it was possible to be a mother

without fostering, adopting, and/or birthing a child.

I have always loved children

but Xander completely changed me.

In addition to strengthening my nurturing side,

he also turned me into a Mama Bear.

I was fiercely protective of him, and - to an extent - still am.

Not a day goes by that I don't think of him.

Sometime when I'm in public, I do a double-take

because I think I have spotted him.

I refuse to forget him

and/or the impact he had on my life.

Xander will be three this year. 

He's no longer a baby. 

And he may not be apart of our daily lives anymore,

but near or afar, he's still our baby.

My dear cousin, Candace, was Xander's foster mother 

and she was very generous and gracious to share him with me. 

As painful as his departure has been for me, 

it doesn't slightly compare to what she has gone through. 

Candace, I want you to know every time I think about Xan, 

I say a prayer for you as well. 

I still believe that he was part of our lives for a reason 

and that God still has his young life in His very capable hands.

Xander, I pray you grow up knowing 

that there are people both in and outside of your everyday world 

that care deeply about you. 

People who support you and will love you 

no matter what.

 I pray you grow up to know Jesus personally.

There is no love stronger or more faithful than the Love of God.

Furthermore, I pray that you grow up to know the Truth of His Word.

It will be a lamp unto your feet

and a light unto your path.

If you hide its words in your heart,

you will succeed farther than you ever could possibly imagine. 

Xander, I believe you are a gift from God

and still thank Him for you everyday.

I love you, Sweet Boy.

Wherever you are, I hope you know that.

I found a new book that I wish I could read to you: Xander's Panda Party.

        

You can read more about Xander here.