Good Evening!
Tonight we have a GUEST POST
that I am beyond excited to share with you!
Please meet one of the greatest women
I have the privilege of knowing:
my BEAUTIFUL cousin, Candace!
I promised Miss Sarah a blog and well it’s more like a slog (slowly typed blog) but here it is none the less. I’m not sure why but Miss Sarah asked if I would contribute to her blog by sharing my story. I guess the beginning is a good place to start. Growing up I had a half-brother, older sister and two younger sisters. We were a big family according to the standards at that time. Then suddenly we had a neighbor put a bug in my mama’s ear and before we knew it we were becoming a foster family. After fostering several children for short periods of time we took in a bitty little boy who happened to steal my mama’s heart. Then said mama found out that said boy had two older siblings. Then she found out said boy had a baby sister on the way. Suddenly, before we knew it, we added four kids to our family tree through the miracle of adoption.
Papa & Mama Lutz - Photo Courtesty of Southern Reflections | ' |
The Lutz Kids :) (Oldest brother not pictured) Photo Courtesy of Southern Reflections |
Bruce & Candace - Christmas 2012. Sadly, a wedding photo was unavailable. |
Photo Courtesy of Tiffany S. |
Sweet Miss Danielle - Photo Courtesy of Tiffany S. |
Photo Courtesty of Tiffany S. |
We announced to our agency that not only were we taking this baby girl into our home but that in nine months we would be introducing our own baby into the family.
They questioned our decision but we were head over heels in love. Did I happen to mention one tiny detail? All during this infertility battle, miracle pregnancy and baby girl joy, I was at Illinois Central College completing my pre requisites for Saint Francis College of Nursing.
Camden, our Miracle Boy! |
Cami & Dani :) |
The year our children turned five I finally graduated from nursing school. After the dust settled, boards were passed and my first job was broken in, my heart started to feel like it had a little more room. Just when we considered infertility treatments again, we got a call from our agency asking us to take in a little new born boy. I bet you can guess what our response was.
Photo Courtesy of Southern Reflections |
Two years into raising baby #3 my heart yet again began to think it had just a tiny bit of room left in it. So, we began fertility treatments. We then received another call from our agency asking us to take baby #3’s baby brother, and we did.
Still on the fertility treatments, yes,
yes I was. Five failed attempts later we decided that the stress and
lack of sleep surrounding baby #4’s chronic illnesses was not conducive
to conception and at this point have decided that our family is most
likely complete.
The following was written as a love letter to baby #3 but is so true for
all my fostered/ adopted children. I consider myself to be one lucky
mama with four amazing children who joined our family through four
separate and unique miracles. I hope you find some inspiration the
words I have written.
"Born in My Heart"
By: Candace DePinto
No, I didn’t nervously wait those three eternal minutes and see the two lines appear on a stick. No, I didn't carry you for forty weeks, anticipating your arrival or feel you kick inside my womb or feel you move. No, I didn't collect blurry black and whites of your tiny growing body as you stretched my own. And no, I didn't get to hear your very first cry or hold you in those first precious moments of life. But still you are very much my baby.
Photo Courtesy of Southern Reflections |
My mind would not stop thinking about you. I did anticipate what you would look like, how little or big you would be, how old you would be, what your hair and skin would look like. I imagined you one million and one different ways, none of those ways would do. I still longed to meet you.
The moment you were placed in my arms I knew it was a lifelong love affair. You were finally mine to hold. My arms no longer ached, my eyes, finally were full of the picture of you. My mind no longer had to wonder, my heart was no longer empty.
I have heard this story and read Candace's words many times.
And they never cease to move me.
I think you will agree when I say that
Candace loves her children with everything within her.
She and her husband work incredibly hard
to provide for their family
and always go the extra mile
to ensure a great childhood for their babies.
Candace's story does not end here.
She asked me to tell the remaining part
because she simply couldn't find the strength
to discuss their current situation.
The most difficult part of being a foster parent isbecoming attached to a child that you could potentially lose.
This is what is occurring in the DePinto household.
Candace received news yesterday that their youngest,
Xander, will be returning to his biological mother on October 1, 2013.
We have known for a while that this was a possibility
but it wasn't until the words were spoken out loud that they hit home.
Naturally, our entire extended family is devastated by this,
but no one more than his Mommy.
This is what is occurring in the DePinto household.
Candace received news yesterday that their youngest,
Xander, will be returning to his biological mother on October 1, 2013.
We have known for a while that this was a possibility
but it wasn't until the words were spoken out loud that they hit home.
Naturally, our entire extended family is devastated by this,
but no one more than his Mommy.
As Candace mentioned earlier, Xander is not a healthy baby.
He has had multiple hospital stays due to several chronic illnesses
and the poor baby struggles with many different allergies.
Candace's number one concern is Xander's health and safety.
She is worried that his biological mother is not prepared to handle his medical issues.
She is worried that his biological mother is not prepared to handle his medical issues.
The following is her written response
to the news of his soon departure from us.
to the news of his soon departure from us.
"Empty Arms"
You came to us at the spur of the moment. Unplanned were you; unprepared were we, but still we said yes, for love's sake.
What will my empty arms do when they are no longer full of you?
I don't think there's anything I can add to that.
Candace, you are an inspiration to us all!
Please keep the DePinto family, particularly Mommy Candace,
in your thoughts and prayers as they face this hardship.
Words of encouragement are welcomed here
and on ItsaRoller-CoasterLife's Facebook Page.
Thank you for reading!
Please visit again soon!
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